Whenever we encounter something new, something life changing, we have this weird tendency. We see that shiny new light a the answer to everything. We focus on it day in and day out. We see it as the answer to everything. But is it?
Men’s style has made a tremendous difference in my life – there’s no doubt about it. I get everything I want easier, people trust me more, my decisions weigh more and I’m doing a lot better with the ladies.
But, after so many years of trying new outfits and writing about them, things have finally started to settle down for me. The big white light that is men’s style that has given me unrealistic expectations has started to allow me to see other things… some of the things that I used to enjoy and that I’ve somehow forgotten about.
That’s right. It takes years, years of practice to reach that balance of passion and ability to focus on on other important things. Years to realize that it’s not this or that thing that makes your life complete – it’s ALL those things put together.
Right now I’m getting at least a couple of style questions each and every day. I see newbies very excited about this, yet I can’t pretend not to notice some of their unrealistic expectations.
Since I don’t want to write the same thing over and over again, I decided to make this article to set things straight for everyone.
Unrealistic Expectation #1
Style will make me rich
I know you don’t buy this 100% but there are still people who dress rich in order to be liked by the rich. And when the real money makers of this world find out the (horrible)truth, what happens? They spit you out.
My advice: yes, it’s great to dress to give off the impression that you have a lot of money. But don’t overdo it.
A rich person with a net worth of $1,000,000 dollars will try to give the impression that he has $5,000,000 but not 50 or 100 million. They know their financial limits.
You must learn to do the same: if you’re really poor, dress to look like you’re doing ok. If you’re doing ok, dress like you’re doing pretty good and if you’re doing pretty good, dress like you’re doing great. You get the idea.
Unrealistic Expectation #2
Style will get me women
Don’t get me wrong, style will improve the way women see you A LOT. I just got a number last night from this good-looking blonde without even trying too much.
But you still have to do your part. You still have to be the guy that girl wants in her life. Think of it this way: would you date a fat girl if she wore hot clothes? You’re most likely to make fun of her than even talk with her.
So get your personal style to the level that you want but remember to take care of the way YOU ARE. Clothes are just a means of expression. They make the man, they are NOT the man.
Unrealistic Expectation #3
Style will make me very popular
Popularity is based on the amount of value you have to offer. Take a celebrity like Michael Jackson. Why do you think he became so well known? Why did he have hundreds and hundreds of girls screaming at his concerts across the world?
Hint: those white socks and those flashy suits are only part of the equation. He had a great voice, a unique charisma, he changed his skin color. But, more importantly, the biggest thing with which he contributed to this world were his songs. The more he offered the more popular he became.
So If you’re on your path to success (no matter what success means to you), style is only the beginning. Your unique style will make people remember you and the way you dress. But after that it’s up to you.