Whenever we encounter something new, something life changing, we have this weird tendency. We see that shiny new light a the answer to everything. We focus on it day in and day out. We see it as the answer to everything. But is it?
Men’s style has made a tremendous difference in my life – there’s no doubt about it. I get everything I want easier, people trust me more, my decisions weigh more and I’m doing a lot better with the ladies.
I was just watching the old Seinfeld series when this scene caught my attention. Funny, yet true. Hit play below to watch.
Jerry: Again with the sweatpants?
George: What? I’m comfortable.
Jerry: You know the message you’re sending out to the entire world with these sweatpants? You’re telling the world “I give up. I can’t compete in normal society. I’m miserable… so I might as well be comfortable.”
I just found this little gem and thought I’d share it with you. It’s a poem called Style by Charles Bukowski and I think you’ll like it.
Here’s the author himself reading his poem and the text right below that.
Style
Style is the answer to everything.
A fresh way to approach a dull or dangerous thing.
To do a dull thing with style is preferable to doing a dangerous thing without style.
To do a dangerous thing with style, is what I call art.
Bullfighting can be an art.
Boxing can be an art.
Loving can be an art.
Opening a can of sardines can be an art.
Not many have style.
Not many can keep style.
I have seen dogs with more style than men.
Although not many dogs have style.
Cats have it with abundance.
Well, I just had to tell you. Ever since I changed my style a few years ago, I’ve been doing better and better with women. I’m no world-class pick-up artist but I do want to share some of the situations I’ve been involved that are related to my style.
For someone who didn’t get that much attention from girls, these things are an eye opener – and I hope they will be for you too.
Who didn’t love the amazing Superman series, where the shy and dull dressed Clark Kent would, at times, reveal his double identity?
From a fashion standpoint, clearly Superman was no style addict. The bold colors and elastic fabrics he wore certainly didn’t help him achieve than. But let’s look at things from a different perspective.
One the one hand we have Clark.
Clearly his formal attire is well put together (though his haircut needs a change). But there’s something about the way he looks that is very, very booooring.
Let me start off with a question: ever happen to talk with someone and get that feeling that they’re not telling you the whole story? We all have. In fact, it happens almost every day.
People have their own agendas and you really can’t blame them. If we become too transparent, others will start losing respect for us.
But what if other people’s lack of authenticity is not in OUR best interest? Then we need to do something about it. The first step is to spot them and act accordingly.
You know what they say: good things in life never come easy. I truly believe that, and style is no exception… sort of.
The great thing about men’s style is that you can get great instant results after a few days (just enough to buy your first stylish clothes). You know… you get that stylish dress shirt that matches perfectly with the new vest, the cool brogueshoes or that slim tie… you feel like a new man.
A lot of guys have been around for a while on this blog. They come in, they love the info and the way it is presented, then decide it’s time to change their personal style and image. After about a month they ask me for some e-mail feedback and I can easily see the change is almost non-existent.
It’s not that I expect them to look like they’re on a catwalk 24/7. That’s too much even for me. But some basic stuff in their outfits is just not taken care of.
If I were to gather in one place the nastiest comments I’ve heard about style and see the big picture, I’d reach the conclusion that they all criticize one style or another.
Here’s what I mean by this: a lot of folks go into the site, look around, then criticize all other styles except their own. As far as they’re concerned, the others should not even be considered stylish.
Some might say leather shoes are the only ones that are worth wearing and that sneakers are for sporting activities only. The next guy swears sneakers make the best casual outfits and literally hate leather shoes, which make them feel uncomfortable. This realization is more complex that I initially imagined.
